• 23Jul

    from wikiHow - The How to Manual That You Can Edit

    Stress. We all deal with it. Whether it be our jobs, family life, drama with friends, a relationship problem, or finances, stress is there, but so are these ways of relieving it.

    Steps

    1. Take a deep breath. This is your first, most immediate defense against stress. If you can get in the habit of pausing and taking a nice, deep breath every time you feel stress beginning to take hold, you’ll have won half the battle just by preventing it from taking over. The other half is won by addressing the causes of your stress.
    2. Communicate. Whether you talk to a friend or talk to your cat, getting it off your chest will help a lot. If you don’t feel like talking about it, write it down. Keep a journal and write down whatever it is that’s bothering you. Writing is a therapy of its own.
    3. Laugh. Rediscover your sense of humor by making fun of your situation. View it from your future self’s perspective, telling this story to a bunch of your friends over pizza and soda. Crack some jokes. Do your goofiest impression. Tickle a child that you love. Laughter, whether it’s yours or someone else’s, is the best medicine–and it’s contagious!
    4. Get fit. Perhaps your health and appearance are stressing you out, but even if they’re not an issue, being physically fit can directly help relieve stress, which exists on both a mental and a physical level. Sometimes there’s nothing like a long run, an intense yoga session, or a fresh swim after a stressful day to help you feel relaxed and stress-free again.
    5. Be organized. For the most part, stress arises from feeling overwhelmed. There’s just too much to do, and not enough time to do it. Being organized and getting your priorities straight can help you break responsibilities down into manageable pieces and focus on the things that really matter to you, rather than getting caught up in details and creating extra work for yourself–all of which leads to more stress.
    6. Soothe the senses. Light a scented candle that has a calming fragrance like lavender. Listen to your favorite, most relaxing music or, better yet, go somewhere that you can listen to wind rustle through trees or waves crash on the beach. Enjoy the scenery, whether you’re outdoors or viewing an art exhibit. Drink some warm tea or taste–really taste–some dark chocolate. Treat yourself by getting a massage or, if you want to be alone, take a bath (bubbles are recommended).
    7. Do nothing. That’s right, folks, do nothing at all. Close the door, open the window, have a seat, and take a little break from life. If your mind is racing, learn to meditate and just let that stress go.
    8. Do something that you like. Rock out to music, have some fun and don’t forget to be yourself.
    9. Imagery Meditation. If you find that you are still stressing and can’t seem to stop mind-racing stressful thoughts, try imagery meditation. Meditating, concentrating or just emptying your mind while viewing tranquil scenery, either real or in video clips can help your mind let go of anixety filled thoughts.

    Tips

    • Be aware of your choices; you always have a choice.
    • Learn to say no; you cannot do everything you are asked.
    • Learn how to delegate.
    • Be thankful. It does wonders for your state of mind.
    • If you need to apologize to someone, and it will not make the situation worse, find a way to do so. More importantly, learn to forgive, particularly to forgive yourself. Guilt adds pain to stress.
    • Relieving stress in the short term is a good idea, but resolving the underlying causes of stress is even better. If the same issues keep driving you up the wall time and time again, give some serious thought as to how they can be dealt with permanently.

    Warnings

    • Be wary of escapism. Do not alleviate stress by doing something that’ll only make it worse in the long run (e.g. buying a new pair of expensive shoes when what’s stressing you is debt).
    • If stress gets really bad and you feel that you cannot cope with it, seek professional help.

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  • 09Jul

    Send in your advice videos!!!! Upload them here or at youtube.com/philosoyou.com

    Live Show Thursday 8pm Talkshoe.com

    I had a live audio show where we addressed the question
    “I really want to take a year off before going to college. because I do not know what I want to do with my life.
    My parents are really upset How do I get them to understand that this is what I want to do. I am so depressed. Help Me!”

    Please send in your advice and videos for this week’s question:

    “I am upset because I know I want to be an actress but when I tell people they say that it is unrealistic and I will not be able to support myself sometimes I believe it too. Part of me wants to be rich so I don’t have to worry about anything. But I don’t want to become a doctor or a lawyer just so that I am guaranteed to be a “success”. Why do people make it so hard for me to follow my dreams? I just want to be accepted.”

    Thank you for all of your help. Every time we help each other, we bring more positivity into the world!

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  • 06Jul

    We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore,
    is not an act but a habit.

    Aristotle

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  • 23Jun

    Powered by TalkShoePeople Helping People

    This show is a place where people can post their questions and problems while also offering advice to others.

    This is the first live show for PhilosoYou.com. The show starts at 8:00pm with a tentative ending time of 8:30pm. (central/standard time).

    Details:

    To listen, chat and/or participate on the show tonight click on the following link: http://www.talkshoe.com/tc/18042

    To call in use this phone number: 1-724-444-7444
    Enter in the pin which is: 18042#

    The question we are focusing on for the live show this week is this

    “I want to take a year off before college but my parents are really upset. How do I get them to understand that this is what I need to do?!”

    If you have any advice for her it would be greatly appreciated!!!

    If you have a problem that you need advice on you can participate as well!! The more the merrier!

    If you do not want to participate that is cool feel free to listen in though!!!

    Hope to hear from you!!

    I have the tag below for talkshoe.com. It has all of the information you need to call in and to chat.

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  • 13Jun

    Interesting Article by WikiHow:
    How To Be Happy

    Everybody gets moody. That’s why people go on diets, spend too much money for clothes, or suck up to popular people - because they think it will make them happy! Instead of striving for happiness it often comes to us! However, the more you get to know people around you, the more you will see what makes even the happiest people crazy.

    Steps

      Keep your thoughts reasonable and think positively. If you catch yourself thinking that things aren’t going to work out, then think again. Remember that most things work out better than you fear - so imagine that your fears are ungrounded and success is real. Rather than thinking of the problems and getting desperate, imagine the best outcome and then work out what you need to do to make that happen. Follow your instincts. If the thoughts you are thinking are not giving you that ‘good feeling’, then think about something else that will make you feel good in that moment. Observe your thoughts and ideas consistently throughout the day (diary/journal if possible). Sometimes this may not be as easy as you think if you are stuck in a “negative” train of thought and your brain chemicals are getting fired up and forming “anxiety or anger” thoughts. Anxiety, fear and anger patterns can be interrupted by focusing on something else. This will dissipate the rush of chemicals that are making you feel bad. Immediately then go back to picturing scenes/remembering things/imagining, planning stuff that makes you feel ‘good’.
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  • 13Jun

    Dating can be one of the most stressful things you can do, but I have some tips that will ease the stress and hopefully make it more enjoyable. Because really that is what it is all about! Here they are!

    1. Information. Find out where you are going so you can dress appropriately. What’s appropriate? Dressed up (sun dress, skirt) for dinner, dressed down (jeans, cute t-shirt) for horseback riding. The last thing you want to do is go horseback riding in a dress!! This is also important so you can know what extras to bring. So, if you are going to the beach you can have your swimsuit ready.

    2. Questions. Have some questions ready for the conversation. Chances are you have met your date before so you know a little about what they do and are into. If you do not know, ask around to gather some information. That way if you are at loss for words you can always say something like “How do you like working at _______?” or “What is World of Warcraft?”

    3. Passions. This goes with number 2. Talk about passions you know you share (see how questions come in handy) “The packers totally should have won against the giants if it weren’t for the terrible weather” People like to talk about themselves and their passions. So if you share a passion talk about it!! Continue reading »

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  • 11Jun

    A first kiss can be really scary and exciting at the same time. Sometimes you get scared because you don’t know if you will have the opportunity and if you do that you will be bad at it. It is exciting well because you will be sharing an intimate moment with someone you really like and that is pretty awesome. Normally, I would write an article about this myself but I found this article called How To Have a First Kiss, that really covers all the points! I like that it talks to both Girls and Boys, because sometimes boys can be shy and us girls need some pointers on how to initiate the kiss on our end. After reading this article you will feel more confident and you will for sure be good at your first kiss. Congrats!
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  • 11Jun

    This is a question I have gotten before. Both sexes struggle with this question but it seems like girls struggle a lot more because of the idea that the guy is supposed to do the asking.

    There are ways for you to help along the “asking out” without actually saying “when are you going to ask me out?” although if you are brave you could always do that too. :)

    First, some questions that you can ask yourself to evaluate the situation.
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